For me, it’s about choice. You can choose to feel guilty, or not. My advice? If you know in your
heart of hearts you are doing all you can for your family, then what’s there to be guilty
about? It might not be what Mary-Jo down the road is doing, but who cares? You are living your
life, your way. Comparing yourself to others is fraught with danger. In essence, it takes your eye
off the main game of your family and business and fuels discontent.
What’s Your Love Language?
Lastly I wanted to shine a light on what I think is the most important element to a successful
family, career or business - a happy and fulfilled marriage or partnership. It’s fascinating how
quickly having kids can really impact your relationship, so it’s critical to make sure you keep
nurturing it.
In my marriage, Chris and I are rock solid however even at times, I have been caught off guard by
how quickly things can get away from you if you are not purposefully working on and nurturing
yourself and your marriage. I find this to be more important during difficult and stressful times.
I would highly recommend a book that has been credited as saving and enriching thousands of
marriages - Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages. Chris and I have found the love languages
to be extremely beneficial in helping us to have an even more fulfilling and loving marriage
and to keep our ‘love’ tanks full. Do yourself a favour; buy a copy of the book, implement the
techniques together with the tips below to give you, your family and your business the best
chance of success and fulfillment.
Debb’s Five Tips for Fullfillment
1. Focus on your marriage/partnership
2. Keep your ‘tank’ full
3. Drop the guilt
4. Clear roles and responsibilities
5. Be present
Good luck!