GirlGI | Girl Gone International Issue 6 - Page 76

What self-help book has pushed you the furthest? I did a month of ‘rejection therapy’ where you have to get rejected once a day in order to overcome your fear of rejection. The theory is that we all live in fear of rejection and don’t do half the things we’d like to because of this fear. On my first day of rejection therapy I approached a guy in a coffee shop who I thought was hot. It took me FOUR HOURS to get up the courage to do it. The result? He bought me coffee, wine and we ended up dating for a while. A total triumph! It made me realise that I always think men won’t be interested in me but that a lot of it is just in my head. I’ve been rejecting myself. What is the most surprising thing you’ve learned from a self-help book? ‘Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway’ by Susan Jeffers tells you to do something scary every day. I did karaoke, stand–up, nude modelling and jumped out of a plane… Jeffers says that if we wait for the day we feel brave enough / strong enough / pretty enough to do the things we want to do, we’ll never do anything – which is true. The only way to feel really alive is to jump in and start doing things now. I did and it was exhausting but fantastic. Jeffers offers a reaffirming message which I repeat in my head everyday, ‘It’s all happening perfectly.’ Even if everything seems like a disaster, Jeffers argues that something good will come from it. I find that comforting. Which self-help book do you think would help a GGI survive and thrive in her life gone international? There’s a fantastic book called the ‘4 Hour Work Week’ by Tim Ferriss that gave me the travel bug. It’s all about giving up on the idea that you have to be chained to a desk five days a week in order to be successful. The book suggests taking ‘mini retirements’ every year – so work for six months, travel six months or work nine months, travel three months – whatever you can do.