“I should be… settling down… married… a good daughter… chasing a career” How many times a day do you lay a guilt trip on yourself? Are all these ‘should haves’ standing in your way? Ok no, you probably shouldn’t eat 10 donuts in one sitting or phone home just once a year. Yes, you should exercise and of course, you should always be kind to yourself. These are all good ‘should haves’ that don’t negatively interfere with your sense of self or experience. The problems start when ‘should haves’ start to hold you back from really unleashing your true self and stop you from living life to the fullest. These inner ‘I should haves’ are psychological burdens, rooted in upbringing, cultural background and personal experiences.