GAZELLE MAGAZINE Vol. 1 Issue 3. - Page 63

L E T ’ S TA L K A B O U T S E X By Lindsay Walden Think for a moment about your day-today life. Who do you interact with? What do you talk about? What if sex is brought up? Would the conversation change? How? Would you be comfortable? I wanted you to think about those questions to help me make a point. Sex is a topic people are not very comfortable discussing, especially if the discussion is between relationship partners. As a sex therapist, I am very comfortable discussing sex, and I work to create a safe, open, nonjudgmental environment for my clients. I want them to feel comfortable to openly share their thoughts and feelings. One of the first assignments I will have a couple complete is called “Yes/No/Maybe.” I have included the steps and a template below, so you can try it with your partner. Have fun! STEP 1 – This step is to be completed individually. Make a list of all the sexual acts you can imagine. You can include things you have not actually done. STEP 2 – This step is to be completed individually. Review your own list of sexual acts, and next to each act write either “Y,” “N,” or “M.” Y - something you have done and would like to do again. Y - something you have not done, but would like to try. N - something you have done and do not want to do again. N - something you have not done and do not want to try. M - something you have not done, but want to try. STEP 3 – This step is to be completed together. Discuss the items on your lists. Make sure to mark which