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FAMILY & HOME Bridal Bliss Bride: Sufia Alikhan Orbe, 30, Attorney, Perficient Inc. Groom: Jeff Orbe, 29, Systems Engineer, Boeing Wedding date: July 7, 2017 (Indian/Muslim ceremony), July 8, 2017 (Filipino/Catholic ceremony) Venue: DoubleTree by Hilton St. Louis - Chesterfield (July 7), St. Francis Xavier College Church and NEO on Locust (July 8) HAVE THERE BEEN ANY CHALLENGES JOINING YOUR CULTURALLY DIVERSE BACKGROUNDS? Jeff: Since we had been together for nine years before we HOW HE PROPOSED Jeff: We took a weekend trip to Las Vegas with some friends. Sufia and I got there a couple of days earlier to spend some time alone. One day, I arranged to take a bus tour to the Grand Cany on. We were allowed to walk around different areas of the canyon, and I took her to an isolated area where we rested for a bit. I had these custom fortune cookies made that asked the question, "Will you marry me?" I offered her a snack, either a protein bar or some fortune cookies. She took a fortune cookie, and I took out the engagement ring as she read the fortune.  44 GAZELLE STL got married, we have had a long time to get adjusted to any differences that we may be experiencing. We’ve both been very accepting of each other's cultures, and we aren't trying to change each other. We also both have very supportive families that will always be there for us.  Sufia: I'm the youngest of five children and the only girl. When I met Jeff nine years ago, I slowly introduced him to my family. It took a little bit of convincing for my brothers to accept that their baby sister had found  the one. My parents and brothers  challenged Jeff and me to see if we were committed to one another in those early years. They truly welcomed him into our family, and I couldn't be more grateful for their love and acceptance. Since Jeff is 100 percent Filipino and I'm half Filipino and half Indian, we are able to share our Filipino culture together. I love the idea of being able to preserve the Filipino traditions we learned from our parents and passing them down to our future children. I also truly appreciated how much Jeff embraced Indian  traditions for our wedding. We spent a weekend in Chicago with my family selecting our Indian wedding outfits at the shops on Devon Avenue. He even learned how to do the Indian style of dancing for our wedding reception, where he performed a choreographed  Indian dance  with  his groomsmen and close friends.