L E T ’ S TA L K A B O U T S E X
By Lindsay Walden
Think for a moment about your day-today life.
Who do you interact with? What do you
talk about? What if sex is brought up? Would
the conversation change? How? Would you
be comfortable?
I wanted you to think about those questions to help me make a point. Sex is a
topic people are not very comfortable discussing, especially if the discussion is
between relationship partners. As a sex
therapist, I am very comfortable discussing sex, and I work to create a
safe, open, nonjudgmental environment for my clients. I want them to
feel comfortable to openly share
their thoughts and feelings.
One of the first assignments I
will have a couple complete is
called “Yes/No/Maybe.” I have
included the steps and a
template below, so you can
try it with your partner.
Have fun!
STEP 1 – This step is to
be completed individually. Make a list of
all the sexual acts
you can imagine.
You can include things you have not actually done.
STEP 2 – This step is to be completed individually. Review your own list of sexual acts, and
next to each act write either “Y,” “N,” or “M.”
Y - something you have done and
would like to do again.
Y - something you have not done, but
would like to try.
N - something you have done and do
not want to do again.
N - something you have not done and
do not want to try.
M - something you have not done, but
want to try.
STEP 3 – This step is to be completed together. Discuss the items on your lists. Make
sure to mark which