Faith Heart Magazine Jewel Tankard - Page 28

After that happened, my next financial plan was dating drug dealers.  Obviously, that was not the right thing to do.  But while I was doing it, I was having fun.  After a while, however, I started to see that those men were dying or being indicted.  I had to reassess what I wanted to do.  I had to take inventory of my situation.  After observing how I had depended upon my parents and the men I interacted with, it led me to ask the question “Why can’t you take care of yourself?”  After that, I changed my major to economics while attending the University of Michigan.  I wanted to learn about money.  I didn’t want to have to depend on someone else to live the life I had always dreamed about. I started asking my mother lots of questions like, “Don’t we have any money saved or invested?” and her answer to everything was “Your father thought this” or “Your father thought that.”  I quickly began to realize that my mother didn’t trust her own financial instincts and trusted my father to produce and manage it all.  I certainly realize that my mother was a product of her generation; that the position of women in the household was to manage other areas of family life, rather than focusing on the financial elements. FHM 28 Because of my own experiences, I became driven to share wealth-related knowledge with other women.  It still amazes me that there are women in this day and age who continue to  say things like, “My husband doesn’t want to do this with the money”.  I’m fine with the fact that they want to listen to their husbands, but there is a question to be asked on whether he is qualified to make such financial decisions.  I have seen on so many different occasions the negative fallout from not trusting your own financial instincts.  Money impacts where our children can go to school, where we shop for groceries, where we live, if we can travel abroad.  It literally impacts every area of our lives.