Faith Filled Family Magazine November 2016 - Page 8

Children see their dads bully their mom into submission to get his way then see their dads bully them in the exact same way and we wonder why we have so many child bullies? They are just copying their parents. Being bullied at home does one of three things. They either become the bully or they become vulnerable to a bully. When you break down that child at home, some kids become susceptible to the bullies at school because this is all they know. A third thing that can happen and this is especially true for girls is they start looking for that father-figure at school and end up sleeping with any boy that gives them attention. The attention they are getting at home is negative so when a boy gives them negative attention, it doesn’t matter to them because their self-worth is so low from their home environment. How do we stop this though? We need to have more training for parents on what to watch for in their kids and more training on how to parent in a positive way. We need men and women to come together in marriage to show their kids what a marriage is supposed to look like. We need husbands to show love to their wives the way Christ loved the church: (Ephesians 5:21-33) “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy,cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[b] This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” in God’s word and he can look to our example, he will have a better chance at becoming the man that God wants him to become. When done right as in t