“ Honor your father and your mother , so that you may live for a long time in the land the LORD your God is giving you .” Exodus 20:12
ior , You are Giving Permission
Stop giving your children permission to mistreat you as a parent . Don ’ t ask them to stop , but let them know that you will not allow them to mistreat , disrespect or dishonor you . You need to believe that you deserve to be honored . Remember , God said to honor without listing required conditions . Every parent has regrets and things that we would do differently . When you understand your own value , then you will not allow another person to treat you as any less than what you deserve . Allowing people to dishonor you hurts you and others . God bestows a blessing on those that honor their parents , but not requiring your children of more , you are keeping them from that blessing . As a parent , you are upholding God ’ s Word when you teach them how to honor you and God . . Refusing to accept that type of behavior allows you to stay in line with God ’ s Word keeps the enemy , who is trying to destroy your family , at bay . Entitling your child to dishonor others leads them to believe they are superior to others . Do not let your children believe the lie that their feelings are more important than anything else .
Tip # 2 : Don ’ t Parent From Guilt , but from God
Don ’ t live in guilt over how you ‘ trained up ’ your children . Many parents had no role-model , instruction book or experience in being a parent . Yet , God entrusts us with our children and left us with His Holy Spirit to guide us in this journey . Not every parent knew to lean on or be led by the Holy Spirit . We need to resolve that we did our best with the tools we had and even then , we probably missed it in some areas . I tell my children they are lucky they survived ! I had my first child at 21 and not sure if my brain was even fully developed . My parents didn ’ t give me all the necessary tools to be a better parent , but God did . I had to resolve that I was a good mom and strived to do my very best . You may have to do the same so you don ’ t parent out of guilt . The cost is too high and you will always be paying . If you can believe God can forgive you of all sin , then you have no reason to keep paying the penalty to a child for your past mistakes . Realize that