tions . I knew immediately this was NOT the church for me . As the preacher was preaching , I was arguing with God , “ OK you got my heart ready for church so now what am I supposed to do ?”
I felt that moment in my heart the name , “ Savannah Christian ” ( Now called Compassion Christian ) popped in my head . The crazy thing is , I never considered that church so I knew this had to be God speaking to me .
When we were leaving church , I asked Sandy if she was comfortable hoping she would say no . As it turns out , she wasn ’ t . I said , “ Great ! God told me that we are supposed to go to Savannah Christian next Sunday and that we will become members of that church .”
She thought I flipped my lid ! I mean here we were leaving a church that we both felt uncomfortable in ( By the way , nothing is wrong with that church , it just wasn ’ t for us ), and now I am telling her that we are to be members of a church that we have not even tried ? She said OK but in the back of her mind she surely thought , “ We will see .”
We immediately fell in love with Savannah Christian and have been going there over 6 years now , but this is where our marriage really went to a whole new level . We started attending church every week . We found an awesome small group that were able to pour into us . In fact the first day we tried the church , we attended small group that same evening . I was ready . I was trying to move fast because I knew we had wasted so much time , and we needed to grow in all areas of our lives . The first night of the small group , they just started the series called the “ 5 Love Languages ” and that was awesome !
Our marriage started coming together and we were truly becoming one . We went to every marriage conference we could afford to go to . We went to every marriage class our church did . We read everything we could read on marriage and even started watching several sermons a week online too . This became a new routine with us and we loved it .
After a few years of growing back together , Sandy finally felt safe enough to discuss with me the first 5 years of our marriage . She told me things that I could not believe I said and done to her . She felt I could finally hear what she needed me to know . I was finally listening to her even when it came to difficult things from the past .
I am to this day still stunned that she stuck with me when 95 % of the women would have left me but now here we are married over 14 years . We can honestly say we have rough journey within our marriage and God brought us out of that . Our story is a love story right from the beginning with some major challenges , but over all , we have a love story that is second to none in our eyes . God has healed both of our hearts through all of this and we are living proof that no matter how bad a marriage is , God can heal . God is ready to take your marriage to the next level but you have to fully surrender your life and heart completely to him for him to be able to do that !
We are so grateful what all God has done in our marriage . We are also grateful that we both are willing to work on our marriage every day . You see marriage is a daily event not a once in a while extravaganza . We realize that work is involved and we do everything to place marriage as a priority . We have lost money because marriage is a priority but to us , that is worth the sacrifice . Nothing or no human comes before each other . God is the ONLY thing that comes first .
Some people don ’ t understand this way of living , and that ’ s OK . We realize that we would have it no other way because our marriage is on solid ground now and keeps growing by the day . We are so excited where God is leading us and we also know a part of that has to do with launching a marriage ministry called “ Inspired Marriage ” which He gave us the name in 2010 .
Marriage is not easy , but it is worth it when you have both the husband and wife on the same page with each other and growing towards a common purpose ! I would say one of the best pieces of advice I would give to end this article is : be easy to please in your marriage . As simple as that sounds , it is one of the reasons we are strong because we both are so easy to please . Many times in marriage one side can do something and it never pleases the spouse . If you change that one thing , I believe we can start the transition to a