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marriage , she went through a tough time because of my addictions . I would look at other women . I would tell her she should look like them and just so many inappropriate things that cut deep into her core . It was horrible for her , and to this day I am so grateful that she held strong on God ’ s Word back then because today we still together after all of that .
Lil Chris , our 5 year old , would not be here if she didn ’ t stand in the gap for our marriage when I couldn ’ t . She never put me down for what I say , or for the addictions . She loved on me in spite of all that and then each night asked God to heal my heart because she knew I needed that . She knew only God could help me , and her job as my spouse was to just show me so much love that I would change . Yet it was taking a toll on her emotionally and spiritually to keep hanging on believing that God will change my heart and He was changing me from the inside out .
Dec 26th , 2007 God convicted me that it ’ s time for a change and I fully surrendered to God all my addictions that day . I have been sober every since sober over 9 years .
Well , when I started changing this is where our marriage started to heal . This was NOT an overnight process but a transformation that took years to happen . God started working on both of us because Sandy needed healing as much as I did during those first 5 years of our marriage- but the healing started .
A few years after me being sober , and by the way , when I told her I was quitting drinking and everything back in 2007 , she didn ’ t believe me because I have said that many times and it never happened . In a few years she knew I was a changed man . She knew God changed me from the inside out .
We were sitting home and Sandy was looking for some free networking events for us . We loved to meet people for business , and also we were broke so we loved FREE food . She found a church event that had a free dinner every Wednesday night through the summer which was in June or July of 2010 . Sandy wasn ’ t sure if I would go , but she asked me anyway . I thought maybe it ’ s time for church again , so I agreed and figured we could be fed both food and spiritually .
We went three Wednesday ’ s in a row , and by the 3rd , I felt ready to try their Sunday morning service . We showed up , and it was a church with many tradi-