Faith Filled Family Magazine December 2016 | Page 77

Spouses First
CHILDREN SHOULD NEVER COME
BETWEEN A COUPLE

BY DANIELLE LOVE

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hildren,
especially
young children, can take
up a lot of our attention
as adults. This is something I
was told when we brought our
first baby home. The problem, mainly for mothers, is that
when you have a baby or little
one and are home all day we
are getting a LOT of touch and
quality time. We are kissing,
hugging and holding our little
ones for hours and hours and
our tank becomes full. Then
our husband comes home after
working all day and want to be
filled up as well, and we are exhausted and filled to the brim.

If we do not remember to fill up
our husbands, areas of our marriage get neglected.
You may have heard before marriage must look like this ‘formula.’
It seems to be very popular these
days, I assume it is because it
works. We see this formula laid
out over the bible as a guideline
God gives to us to follow.
1.First comes God
2.Second comes your Spouse
3.Third comes your Children
Let’s break this down. First, God
comes first because God needs
to come first in every single area
of our life. Deuteronomy 6:5,

“Love the LORD your God with all
your heart and with all your soul
and with all your strength.” All of
our heart, soul, and strength is
to be committed to loving God,
making Him the first priority. That
includes become above and before our marriage and our parenting. God designed marriage,
it is a representation of Christ’s
love for the church. God cannot
be excluded from this equation.
The bible says in Ephesians 5
‘Husbands, love your wives, as
Christ loved the church and gave
himself up for her’
If we look at Christ’s relationship
with the church, he gave his life
up for her. This is the love we
should replicate in our marriage.