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Tell someone you trust and develop a plan; use code words if you are in
trouble. A visual sign could be if the light is on it is safe; if the light is off
you are in trouble
Go to a doctor if you are injured and report the incident
Do not go back to the abuser; your life could be at risk and no love is worth
that.
File a report and let the charges stick; regardless of the partner’s threats
Reassure children of a safe place and their job is not to protect you.
Keep the car fueled, money hidden, cell charged, and evacuation plan ready
Pack a bag and hide it if necessary, with important documents, like social
security numbers, birth certificates, medical information, marriage license,
extra car keys, car title, banking information, important phone numbers,
shoes, clothes, and toiletry items; maybe the kids favorite toy, to calm them.
Know abusers schedule and a safe time to leave
Erase you internet search history and be careful who you reach out to
If you call for help, immediately dial another number right after that, so the
abuser will not know who you called last.
If you leave:
Change your routine
keep your doors locked
Keep a certified copy of your restraining order with you at all times. (6 months
max; can get a $500 fine or imprisonment)
Install security systems in your new place
Get a P O Box
Get caller id
Avoid going to where the abuser is, when possible. If necessary, carry
protectors with you like law enforcement.