Epunchng - Most read newspaper in Nigeria Sunday, August 13, 2017 - Page 54

Sunday Health+ T August 13, 2017 54 Taking stock of your marriage his is one of those topics that remain relevant yesterday, today and tomorrow. Particularly with the pressures that marriages are under in our modern times. Over the years, I have spoken to several friends and clients who were either contemplating having an affair, were having affairs or simply felt indifferent to their spouses. Having just marked 30 years of marriage myself, I am well aware of how blessed I am to have been in a happy and peaceful marriage. Especially since I have observed up close and personal some of the horror stories that many marriages go through today. I am immediately reminded of a friend I wrote about some time ago who told me her marriage of 15 years had come to an end, and she appeared to be in a complete fog as to how it had happened. As we went through the post-mortem of the marriage, it became clear that there were many signs along the way that should have been red flags for both of them. While no marriage is perfect and they all go through good and bad patches, highs and lows; you generally know if you are in a happy or unhappy marriage. You know if you like being around your spouse, you know if your spouse makes you happy. The fact that you have been married 10, 15, 30 and even more years doesn’t change those basic fundamental feelings you had about them when you married them. The problem I am finding with a lot of young couples going into marriage today is that they don’t even have enough regard for their partner at the very beginning of their union so how in God’s name do they hope to tackle the difficulties that will surely come along the way and will ultimately challenge their marriage. One size doesn’t fit al vW&R'&vW2&R66W&V@BV6R2VVRFFB'F7V"6WR@FW&R&RFw2FBv&vFR6WRFBvV@WfW"6VRFRƖvBbFvFFW"6WRvRF02vfVvWfW"FW&R&R6RFw2FBW'F7&72FR&&BBb&R'6VBFR'&vRf &vVBW&BB2F6Fb6WFpBvVFw27V62&W7V7BFW726F&ƗG6&r6RWfVb76BV6RFRRऒ66WBFBB2VFR76&RBFfRFW6PFw2Vr6VFVW6ǒFRFR2FW&P6&RFw2B&W77W&W2FB7BW0FǒFBWVǒffV7BFW6RFw2vWfW"FW6VBWfW"&Vǒ&RFBf"vg&&VvVW&Fr &Vr&RF66W72F226WBFVg&g&VN( 27F'w&FP&WBB6rvvWfW"BV'2F&R7F'FB2FB'6WW2W7BFffW&VB6֖ f&F2WF6WfVV'2vgFW"FV"6V6B6Bv0&&גg&VBFW6BW"&VR@F6VBBvFrF"Vrfr6WvFW W6&B&RFFF6R6B6RfVB&Vp26&W76fRB7&V6vǒfVBVvFvRB2VFR76&RFR֖vBfR&VV7VffW&rg&6Rf&b7B'GVFW&W7666R6RF6VBW"&&V2FWfVVBgFW"W 6V6B6BB6VV2FW&RvW&RV&W"bFw0VrfW"FRV'2FBFWvW&RBpGFVFFदFR62Fw2W7B6VVVBF6vRfW&v@BvVBg&fr'&vRFfVVƖrƖP6Rv2ƗfrvF7G&vW"v6RFF( BWfVƖRWBRfRF22G6ǒW'&VW2FVW6B6WvBfR&VƖVbb6WW2vF&F&&V2FR&&V2WfW"VfW&vBBFP&VF62F&RW'GW&VBBBGFVFFvRFW&R&R6R&&V2FB6WW2&GFPvFF&VvWBFV"'&vRvF&W6WF@&RFB6&֗6RVVG2F&R&V6VB"FWWfVGVǒvWBFFRB6RFW6&FƗfRvFB&V6W6RFW&R&R'G2bFV"VFB&R7G&vW BWGvVvFR&&V2आvWfW"vVFW&R&R&R&&V&V2Fv&&R&V2FVB2FRFvWBFv&"f6RFPF6FVw&FbFR'&vR6WFW2vRW'&VW6ǒ&VƖWfRFB2r0vRF( B7FWWBbFR'&vRFr&Bv6PFBw&rVf'GVFVǒFW&R&RFw06WFrf"W"fRBffV7FB6WFW2bvP&RBW'BFRWG6FR6G'VFRW"&VF6BFW&R&RW7Bf&6W2vFrFGF6@vWB&WGvVVRBW"FRBFF֖6W &VF6'&vRVVG2F&R7FfVǒ&FV7FVBfRvF'&vR&WV&W2w&VBFVb6fWGf F7Fw&r2B'&w2WBFR7BgVW&&PBg&vR'G2bW"W'6ƗGvVvRfVV6fRvP66RWBbfVVƖw2b6FB6Vb6VG&VFW72BFv&FvWFW"W"FfGVvVW76W2शVWrFRƖW2b6V6FV27'V6FVF'&vRbRF( BrrFW&W70W"fVVƖw2B"fR"Ɨ7FVr62PVVBFV&FvWB&WGFW"B&FFRFW&W7BbW '&vR7BFW26WW2&RFVƖrV6FW"Pf&"FW"vBFR&&V2&RFR&&V06WW2&RVFW"BƗ7FVr"BV&r"fP7FVB6&rखbRfR7FVBFƶrFFRv@ǒF67W72FRVFRWfVG2bFǒ7FfFW2@W6VB6&W2F2֖vB&Rv&r6vF@6VF( B&Rv&VBGFW"rVF'&vP2B6F6FVw&FRV6ǒbv&VB"VvV7FVBॖR6B7vVWW"gVFVFF6w&VVVG0VFW"FR'VrBRFWvv6ǒ&W6fPFV6VfW2FWv7Bv2FVfFVǒVW&vRFW"&V2bW"'&vR7V62W"6WƖfRWG&Ц&Fff'2BG&gFr'B&VV&W&rFBPfRW"7W6R6VRvfRFVFR&VVfB`FRFV'BvVRfVVw'W'B"F6FVBFƲFW"'FW"BF( BR77VF2F@FWrrRfVV"FBRrrFWfVVॖR6VBWfW"fRFfVV"6VRW"7W6R0W"VVגbRF6WFrw&rBV2F&VV&W"FBF22FR6RW'6RfVfPvFBvFVBF7VBFR&W7BbW"ƖfRvFFRW'62FRfFW""FW"bW"6G&Vv&6BFRBW"vVFFr7GW&W2G'@&VV&W"FRfVVƖw2RBFBFbR&PV&RFvWB&VƖVb"F&V6V7BvFF6RfVVƖw0FVW"'&vR֖vB&RG&V&RfR&WV&W267&f6SB2FRvW7Bf&`GW&GF( B&VƖWfRFR&F26V6RvPfR&VV6B&WBfRBfrF6( 6''BVVFrFv&&BBB"bN( 2&VB6VBW7@G2vFRVRvw&FRF6R6VFVG0&2B6&G2&RFR6RW2vw&FRvPFW"6FwVRbƗFW&GW&R( vVfRvW2&B( vVRG'VǒfRB6&R&WB6VRFW&PvBW7B&R67&f6W2W"7F2f"FRFW W'6VF'&vRf&&ǒ&WV&W2W FV662Fv2G'FfRW"7W6W>( FW&W7B֖Bw&FVBF22Bv2V7'WBbFRFVFগ2FW&RBvVFwVFRW"FV66r67&f6RV2R&RBv2vrFfRW vBV2frV6FFfRf"V6FW v7B6frf&&VF&W2vW&RV6W76' &WV&VBvB7Fr'&vW2&RFRWbGv666W2֖FgVFfGV2FBfRFRFW6&RFv&FV6VfW2vFFRFWFW&֖FF7Ff7W6VBFP'F6RbFV"'&vRN( 2Bv2B2&@v&'WBB2WVǒFVFǒfVBvFV&VV@