5 tips
MADEXXXX
ON NOT
SETTLING
FOR SAFE
MADE BY ASHLEY WHITE
Sarah Jakes Roberts is not your typical First
Lady. She’s real, relatable and undeniably
confident in who she is. With the arrival
of her new book, Don’t Settle For Safe ,
Sarah opens up about how the uncomfortable
seasons of her life helped shape her to become
unstoppable. Here, she shares insight on how to
navigate those tough moments in life, love and
relationships so that we don’t settle for safe.
MADE: How do you stretch your faith in a
season where you’re barely hanging on?
SJR: I don’t think your faith has to be stretched
in those seasons. I think that when you’re
barely hanging on, your faith is organically
being stretched in those seasons. It’s important
that we don’t put more pressure on ourselves
than necessary. Sometimes hanging on is the
act of faith. Watching videos on YouTube,
tuning into podcasts or doing whatever it is that
feeds your soul in those seasons is important.
I personally believe that you don’t realize that
your faith has been stretched until after the fact.
MADE: Oftentimes, you’ll see women thriving
in their careers, but they’ll have a hard time
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Michael Rowe
navigating relationships. Why are we willing to
compromise when it comes to matters of the
heart?
SJR: I think we want to be intimate. Most
women at their core are nurturers and we long
to be able to show that side of ourselves to
someone who cherishes it. I think that we end
up settling because we believe that if I can give
you the love that’s down on the inside of me,
receiving your love in return will validate me.
So, we end up settling even though a person
hasn’t really demonstrated the values we would
like to see. We think that they can grow into
the person who can love us the way we want
to be loved. I always say that’s falling in love
with potential and putting yourself on clearance
because when you do that, you don’t really
leave room for people to grow because you’ve
already given them all of yourself at that level.
But, it’s hard. We don’t want to be alone. The
clock is ticking and you don’t want to feel like
you’ve aged out of the game, but I really do
believe that God brings the right people in your
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