Loving-Kindness
When it comes to directing loving-kindness energy to someone who is a negative influence, it’s best to start with one whose legacy isn’t completely full of pain. This way you can develop the skill of
offering blessings to those you dislike without being initially overwhelmed.
Bring to mind a person who dislike. Perhaps pick someone who has injured you or caused you harm. See this person clearly. Notice
details. Breathe deeply and repeat these blessings as genuinely as
possible.
May you be happy.
May you be healthy.
May you be at peace with whatever you’re given.
It may be helpful to remember that you are not condoning the behavior of unhealthy or negative people. Rather, you are wishing
them well knowing that if such people were healthy, happy, and at peace then their behavior would profoundly change. Remember, negative and hurtful behaviors are rooted in disjointed,
traumatized, and unhappy lives.