TIP 2: BE YOUR BEST SELF!
Now that you’ve landed a hot date, you’re stressing over every detail: location? What to
wear? Arrive early, or fashionably late? All of these are valid questions, but remember dates are fun. The idea is to project the best version of YOU that YOU can be. If you and
your guy have an easy, comfortable connection, the rest won’t even matter. So let’s
start with location: chances are he’s picked a spot already. If he tells you the name of
the place, you can do a little research - what to order, how to dress, etc. If he asks for
your input, don’t be afraid to suggest your favorite spot. For how to dress, the key to
a first-date outfit is simple: choose an outfit that showcases your beauty but lets your
personality speak for itself. The little black dress is a classic favorite for a reason. Finally,
do not EVER arrive “fashionably late” for a first date. It’s RUDE! If you put in a little extra
time to ensure that you’ll be making a KILLER first impression, the rest of the date should
be smooth sailing.
TIP 3: NO MORE POST-DATE DRAMA!!
People just don’t like wasting time, and dating is no exception. After your first date, if
you’re really into the guy, say something confident and direct to let him know you’d love
to have Date #2. “Tonight was great, I’d love to see you again next week.” A line like that
leaves no room for misinterpretation, and if he doesn’t call you again, let it go. He didn’t
lose your number, he isn’t “tied up at work,” he just doesn’t want to waste your time.
You’re better off knowing it! Move on.
If he DOES call you back - congrats! You’re on your way to a love connection... we
hope. While it’s not advisable to lay out your ten-year plan for marriage, kids, and a white
picket fence, you SHOULD be clear about your intentions. Don’t pretend you’re okay with
minimal commitment - guys will take a statement like that at face value! If you get the
sense that this guy isn’t as serious as you are, feel free to clarify your own goals: “It seems
like you’re looking for something more casual. That’s okay, but not with me. Maybe we
shouldn’t see each other anymore.” Plenty of my clients knew their wife was “The One” after
the second or third date, maybe even the first. Don’t waste time on poor communication!!
Written by: Americas #1 Match maker - Janis Spindel
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