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What Makes a Woman Marriage Material?
If your best pal just shouted out, “a rich dad
who owns a brewery,” then you’re probably
sat in the pub right now reading this for a laugh.
But seriously, have you ever dated a girl you were
crazy about but wished you could change that
one little thing about her? What was it? Have you
kicked yourself afterwards because your honey
and you shared almost everything in common, yet
you still broke up? So what is it you really need to
look for in a woman in order to build a successful
marriage when Miss Right comes along?
The best way to find out if she’s marriage material is to ask yourself a few questions. There are
five basic points that you’ll really need to look at before any relationship can progress towards
something truly meaningful. Here they are:
1
Personality: What’s her
emotional makeup? This
means her ‘psychological
characteristics’, emotional states,
styles and expressions. Her perspective
on the world and her level of selfesteem can be the difference between
a life of bliss and a living hell. Look at
her confidence, what’s her understanding of intimacy, her ability to
share, commit. Look for weaknesses,
strengths, respect of self and others,
level of vanity, attitude towards the
things you find important in life.
The list goes on...
2
Attraction: Physical and
sexual compatibility mean
different things to different
people. For some, it means the
physical act itself, perhaps something
kinky and wild, while for others
romance and intimacy play an
important part. A few traits to keep in
mind when looking for a missus might
be her level of interest in sex, romance,
foreplay, love, sexual variations and
assertiveness, monogamy, communication, risk taking, playfulness,
awareness of STDs, and physical
appearance.
3
Brains: How a woman thinks
about the world she inhabits
and how she interacts day to
day are important signs of long-term
mutual compatibility. Some women
are casual observers of life while
others thrive on being aggressive
personalities. You’ll want to check out
how she expresses ideas, her level of
education, sense of humour, goals,
skills, hobbies, mistakes, conversation
and learning styles, her interest and
quickness of thought.
4
Goals: Money matters affect
everyone. How she handles
money can tell you a lot about
her and could make the difference
between a comfortable life and an
existence in poverty, so it’s important
to be compatible in this area too. Pay
attention to spending style, lifestyle,
personal and professional goals,
retirement plans, savings and ideas
about money and debt in general.
5
Values: To have spiritual
values doesn’t necessarily
mean religious orientation, but
rather a basic belief system about life
in general. A sense of self you might
call it; a reason for living. It includes
beliefs about ethics, the importance of
family, stability, religion, for example,
a purpose of life, optimism, an acceptanc