also relating to marriage, I
always tell people that I never
saw my parents happy together.
I saw them fighting most of the
time, and then there came a
time when my father brought
another woman into our home
as a second wife. And you see,
that wasn’t an ideal picture for
a child to form a solid future,
and especially when it has to
do with marriage. But I thank
God that I met Christ before I
got married. I met Christ at age
24 and I began to learn that
marriage can be sweet when
you have Christ as the centre.
And I wanted that; I wanted
that different story, so, when I
got engaged - that was after I
knew Christ, I felt it wouldn’t
be nice for me to keep that
part of me from the man I want
to marry. I had to let the man
know that I had had one of my
tubes cut off because that was
the honest thing to do. Well, for
that and other reasons I didn’t
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know, the first two engagements
I got into broke a few weeks
to the wedding and that was
quite shattering. It changed
my life, but I thank God, I held
onto God or should I say God
held onto me, especially when
I thought that I was suffering
for my promiscuous past at that
time. I suffered a lot of guilt and
regret. Then, well, long story
short, fast forward 2013, I met
this man in the church, right in
the middle of the ashes of the
second disappointment. He had
just joined my service group in
the church, and weeks later, he
proposed to me. I, of course, told
him about my biological state.
When I knew he was serious, I
had to tell him. And he told me
God had already told him about
it and God had instructed him to
go ahead and marry me. And so,
we got married a year later, and
that was the second-best thing
that happened to me after I met
Jesus.
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Tell us about being married
to a pastor and what impact
that had on your long wait?
Did it make the waiting
more manageable and less
frustrating?
ell, I wouldn’t say that.
But I think that really
God gave me a man after
His heart because that had
been my prayer for a very
long time. You see, when
you ask God and trust Him
for a marriage partner, He
will give you someone that’s
suitable and complementary
to you and that’s stated in the
Amplified Version of Genesis
Chapter Two, Verse 18. It says,
I will give you a helpmate
that’s suitable and that will
complement you. Really, He
gave me a man that was able
to love me unconditionally.
He was patient as I began to
learn not only to love myself
but also to love him. Because
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