DOZ Issue 40 February 2019 - Page 23

affected your confidence. So how were you able to pick yourself up and get into the bank as an investment banker and then rise to the top as VP of the bank? How did that happen? I know some women would have sunk under the weight of the depression or a lack of self-confidence. How did you overcome? W ell, let me be very clear. First of all, it’s my relationship with God; I am a believer in Jesus Christ. And also, when I was living in the shelter, we had to go to counselling, so I was in therapy twice a week. First, I was going to church, so I really feel in my heart that those two things were the reason that I made it. Now, I’m not one of those people who don’t believe that therapy is good. I needed therapy. I was in group therapy as well as individual therapy because I was traumatised, okay? Yes, I had a lot of great things that happened to me, but I had to go through the process of healing. And that’s what I went through. And while I was going through, while I was becoming healed, all of these things happened, but I believe it in my heart that those things that happened to me, is what made me the woman that I am today. Because the question was raised, is a leader born or is he raised? I believe it’s both because had those things never come about in my life; I don’t believe I would have risen to be a leader because adversity is either going to make you or break you, you decide. That is so true. So, you had God on your side, and you had therapy, and that’s what helped you get out of that situation? A bsolutely! Absolutely! I came to church every time the doors were open. I mean, I did the work to become healed, to become whole again. It didn’t just happen. And depression is real; it is definitely real. It wasn’t easy because it happened for me. I had to fight for my freedom, and that’s what I did. Awesome. Now, what would you say was the biggest lesson that you took away from that experience and from that season of your life? N ever judge anybody. You don’t know why they walk in the shoes that they walk in, because domestic violence does not discriminate. You can be black, white, single, married, rich, poor, gay, straight; it does not discriminate. It taught me not to be judgemental because you know how you see women on TV and they’re crying, and you’re like, oh girl just leave him, just leave him, God! But it’s like that season of my life made me know never to judge anyone’s journey. 23 And to be more patient, I guess, with people? Y es! Because let me tell you, the tables always turn. I would have never thought that that would have been my story, never. But I’m glad that it is, absolutely. Jessica, following your job as an investment banker you became a coach and founded the MizCEO society for coaches where you now work with female entrepreneurs and you also do PR for your clients. You’ve been able to put your clients on Steve Harvey Show, Aspire TV, Huffington Post, and Black Enterprise just to name a few. Please tell us how and why you got into this line of work. What did you want to achieve, and would you say that you have achieved your goal? W ell, the thing is, I started off in radio, I am still in radio and so me starting the society for coaches, that’s just another part of my brand. I DOZ Magazine | February 2019