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“H
H
ow sweet it is, to be loved
by you,” is the title cut of
the fif th album of the sultr y
soul singer Mar vin Gaye. In 1965
Mar vin “topped The Char ts” with
his classic single that still delivers
the timeless message of Love. To be
loved Is the most awesome feeling in
the world! To have someone in your
life who desires you and you alone, is
truly a gif t. Marriage has long been
a traditional and sacred institution.
However, we may not see many
of today ’s millennials embarking
on this joyous journey of lifelong
companionship. In this technolog y
and information age, there is always
a chance to be distracted, mislead,
and even misunderstood. Who we
are, and how we appear is of ten ver y
dif ferent from the perceptions that
people have of us.
Social media has become an
interactive résumé so to speak. A
quick peek at someone’s Facebook
or Instagram page can give you an
unfiltered look into what appears to
be a person’s lifestyle. The question
today is... How true and authentic is a
person in comparison to the way he/
she appears to be? Our perceptions
can be ver y inaccurate when
evaluating the qualities and traits of
those with whom we have not met.
Having an actual conversation has
almost become all but obsolete.
Perhaps with all of the “lights, and
cameras,” not to mention the games
and
the
endless
amounts
of
apps,
we have come to
overlook the value of
using our mobile devices to verbally
communicate.
It is true; nothing can take the place
of interacting with another human
being. However, that does not stop
the constant quest of creating a
society, that prefers to interact with
a device instead of another person.
I met my wife two years ago at a
gathering. We spoke brief ly
and were ver y cordial. Although
we did not exchange numbers
at the time, we were able to
connect at another gathering
and have brief conversation.
Af ter our second meeting. I
begin to develop more of an
interest in her. Again, we did not
exchange numbers; however,
with the help of social media, I
was able to find her FB page and
request her friendship. I was elated
to be able to see her pictures and
the many events she posted. I was
clearly looking to see if there was a
man in her life and any signs of her
being married. I know, I know, there
is limited information you can gather
from social media; yet, it was a way
for me to learn as much as possible
before expressing my interest in
becoming better acquainted with
her. We soon began to communicate
through instant messenger and
had brief interactions on occasion.
Shor tly thereaf ter, we scheduled
time to talk over the phone, which
soon became a nightly delight.
Although she lives in New Jersey and I
lived in New York, the distance between
us was shor t and of no challenge for
us to connect daily by phone. Our
conversations grew and blossomed
like never before, I was taken back
to the days where communicating
by phone was the absolute and
only way to communicate without
being physically with someone. We
conversed by phone for 2 1/2 months
prior to seeing each other again. By
the time we met up for our first date,
we were not only well acquainted
with one another but, we had already
begun to develop feelings for each
other through our friendship and
several conversations.
We spoke daily, and we texted each
other in between time. We developed
a mutual respect and began to fall in
Love. We were soon in a committed
relationship. And now af ter dating
exclusively for well over a year, we are
now happily married! In this present
era of technolog y and information,
be sure not to allow your messages
to be unclear or misinterpreted.
Your future happiness could ver y
well depend on your willingness to
converse. Do not allow inaccurate
perceptions to speak on your
behalf. Relationships are a linguistic
phenomenon. Find your inspiration
through verbal communication...
Written by Sherman Pegués
Awaken a 65 Day Journey to
Discovering a Truer You,
can be purchased through Xulon
Press http://w w w.xulonpress.com/
bookstore/bookdetail.php?PB_
ISBN=9781622302802
And my audiobook
Awaken a 65 Day Journey to
Discovering a Truer You
is available on iTunes:
https://itunes.apple.com/us/
album/awaken/id1175276293
My blog, Adventures in
Wife & Motherhood
will launch March 1, 2018.