RELATIONSHIPS AND MARRIAGE
"Drop The Baggage!"
(From February 2017)
Written by Kisha Emanuel-Durrell
By now we all have heard Erykah Badu’s “Bag Lady” This song is a prime example of the healing powers of lyrics with a message in the music. It serves as a wake- up call to women everywhere. And none of us are exempt from the first verse to FADE OUT: the words that resonate, ”BAG LADY, YOU GONE HURT YOUR BACK DRAGGING ALL OF THEM BAGS LIKE THAT”.
Holding on to the hurt, pain, anger, and disappointment manifests itself in our bodies. The end result runs the gamut from chronic illness to life threading diseases. Sooner or later our baggage causes our bodies to give out.
“BAG LADY YOU GONE MISS YOUR BUS YOU CAN’T HURRY UP ‘CAUSE YOU GOT TOO MUCH STUFF”
When we spend our time focusing on negative people and negative experiences, we end up missing opportunities and blocking our blessings. We can’t see the future because we’re busy living in the past. Meanwhile our perpetrators go on living their lives oblivious to the hurt they’ve caused us. And ladies, yes, sometimes we are the ones who are causing the hurt to ourselves.
"SO TO ALL MY BAG LADIES, SEARCH YOURSELF. BE HONEST. ASK YOURSELF, "WHAT’S IN MY BAG?""
Ask yourself how many relationships come together on crutches? Most women know they have no business involved in situations with unresolved issues. Still the fear of being alone, or of “MISSING OUT” will cover our wounds with our tight hair-do’s, beautiful clothes, fake smiles and manicured nails while going into an alliance with someone who has no idea we’re still hurting over what some so-in-so did or said, or that father who did not come home.
"When we spend our time focusing on negative people and negative experiences, we end up missing opportunities and blocking our blessings."