I kept pulling the conversation ( again , subtly ) to the fact that a man gives the best BJ because we know exactly how a penis works . They pretended to be grossed out , but I knew that curiosity got the better of them not because they were bi-curious , but because they were men . Later that night , I found myself showing a straight dude the ropes in the bathroom – he didn ’ t get fully hard ( I ’ d say about 60 %), but at least he can mark one thing off his bucket list .
Tactic # 3 – Your face cannot read : “ I want sex .” How many times has a creepy gay or bi man flirted with you and the second he utters his first word , you know he ’ s making a sexual advance . It ’ s such a turn off , right ? Then why would you assume being sexually forward is the way to go ? Trust me , it ’ s not .
A straight guy should never , ever , under any circumstances , know that he ’ s being seduced – that ’ s the art of all seduction , whether you ’ re gay or straight . The second he feels like you ’ re trying to get in his pants , he ’ s going to be extremely turned off and freak out , leading him to believe that all gay guys want to get in his pants – please , we don ’ t need any more of that stigma attached to us .
It has to come from a very friendly place . Genuinely smile , happily approach him with enthusiasm ( not lust ), keep a poker face that reads , “ I just want to get to know you , bro .” It ’ s not going to happen in an instant . You need to let it build . But you ’ re never going to be welcome if the first glance you send to him is an “ I want to f * ck you ” stare .
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Tactic # 4 – Let him come to you . Anyone who ’ s randomly found himself inside the mouth of a sexy stallion in a wet sauna knows what I ’ m talking about . It ’ s all about giving him the space to think about it ; being the model or catalyst to an opportunity , if you will . Once you make it clear that you are DFW (“ down for whatever ”), you are unconsciously making him want to hunt you – and it ’ s easy because he doesn ’ t need to play any kind of social game , or cat and mouse tactic , like he would do for a woman . It ’ s all about the physicality of getting off , which is easy to achieve once you both are aware that you ’ re down .
Tactic # 5 ) Edge his comfort zone without being aggressive . I was in the grocery store last week doing my regular shopping ritual when around the corner turned the most gorgeous dude I ’ d ever seen – picture Ryan Gossling meets Jake Gyllenhaal . He was with his girlfriend , but that didn ’ t matter – guys always enjoy a little flattery .
I found him again in the produce aisle where he told his girlfriend to fetch some carrots , which were on the other side of the section . I found my opportunity . I was at a good distance ( about twenty-five feet ) when our eyes met . I kept contact and smiled for about three seconds longer than a normal stranger would . I saw him fidget for a second , then relax into his body , then smile back – his lips shivering in an adorable fluster .
Nothing wrong or aggressive happened . A man saw another man , and smiled . That ’ s it . About ten minutes later , I saw them both at checkout . When I grabbed my bag to turn and leave , I looked at him again . This time he was already staring at me – I smiled and he smiled back . He knew I was flirting with him , and , most importantly , he didn ’ t care . In fact , he was flattered . But a seed was planted . I edged his comfort zone a tad without being too forward or pushy ( a mistake most gay guys make ). The girlfriend had no idea and no harm was done , but I managed to succeed in mastering the first step of subtle seduction .
Tactic # 6 ) You have to plant a seed . A straight guy is not going to be assertive with you , ever . If he is , he ’ s definitely not straight to begin with . The main principle of seduction is planting a seed . In a case where you ’ re trying to get the attention of a heterosexual man , you need to be the assertive one . Not him . It ’ s all about stimulating his fantasies without blatantly saying it .
Think of it as showing , not saying . You can say you ’ re athletic , or adventurous , or funny , or spontaneous all you want ; but it ’ s the showing that really proves your labels to be true , right ? It ’ s the same idea . Don ’ t straight out tell him you ’ re interested or intrigued by his biceps , show it – let him catch you taking a sneak peek : “ Damn I need to get your workout program .” Lift your shirt and wipe off some sweat from your upper lip so he can see your abs . Take out the chapstick and give yourself another layer so he can see how soft your lips are – it ’ s all in the show .
Tactic # 7 You need to speak the same body language . Stand straight with an aligned spine , both feet shoulder length apart , play it cool , don ’ t get too high in your vocal pitch . All in all , be ambiguous . This has nothing to do with masculine vs . feminine
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