don ’ t ask . Your marriage is like that plant . You keep struggling with it , asking when you are going to be able to get fruit .
We ’ re not saying you never get the fruit . We ’ re not saying you have to settle . We ’ re saying that you can ’ t demand fruit while your plant is dead . You need to do the work to nurture it .
If you haven ’ t cared for it , there ’ s no magic pill you can use to get the fruit you want . If your plant is dead , you aren ’ t getting fruit . But if you have done the work to create the relationship that is ready to give it to you , if you have the skills to ask in the right way that actually inspires someone to want to say yes to you , then you can ask for what you want . when one of you is trying to get their way
● Your partner doesn ’ t feel like a close friend
● You or your partner feel judged by each other
● You and your partner don ’ t trust each other
● They challenge you when you ’ re trying to do something
● One of you treats the other like they are one of the kids
● You don ’ t regularly demonstrate your love and appreciation for each other
● If you had an hour to yourself , you wouldn ’ t think about spending it with your partner first ( and vice versa )
● You ’ ve lost rapport
If any of these things are resonating with you , your plant might be dying ! These are the warning signs !
How Do I Save My Plant ?
You can save your plant ! But it won ’ t happen if you BLAME your partner . You can ’ t read that list and say , “ Yeah , my partner doesn ’ t do any of those things .”
Is My Plant ( Relationship ) Dying ?
So how do you know if your plant is dying or dead ? There are several signs :
● Your partner doesn ’ t support you fully when something matters to you
● There ’ s a win / lose dynamic that goes on
Nope ! Relationship Transformers …. ELEVATE .
If you want to get the fruit , you ’ re the one who has to nurture the plant . Yes , YOU ! You ’ re the one who can show up to make these differences . You ’ re the one here reading this . You ’ re the one ready to make the change . That ’ s why it has to be you .
And if you do , your relationship will grow . Your plant will thrive . How you show up