Awareness is the key . Becoming aware that there is a belief or behavior that needs to change is the first step . It requires us to be honest with ourselves .
These patterns of thoughts , feelings and reactions then become our behavior and habits and throughout life we begin to accept that ‘ that ’ s just who I am ’ or ‘ that ’ s my nature ’ or ‘ I ’ m just built that way ’ – can you relate ? Or worse yet , we believe what others tell us about ourselves which can be just as damaging to our self-esteem .
Through working with clients on issues of selfbetrayal , I have found that the disempowering beliefs typically revolve around thoughts of “ I am not ____ enough ” ( good , smart , skinny , pretty , etc ), “______ is not available to me ” ( money , a loving relationship , confidence , etc .) or “ I am not like everyone else ”; feeling different , unworthy or not accepted . These are some of the lies that we tell ourselves and that is where self-betrayal begins , whether we are conscious of the belief we have formed or not .
Everything is changeable !
Awareness is the key . Becoming aware that there is a belief or behavior that needs to change is the first step . It requires us to be honest with ourselves . A few of the best ways I have found to develop this practice of self-honesty are journaling , meditation , and self or guided hypnosis . If you have never tried any of these , I highly encourage you to try each of them out and see what works best for you . Being able to sit with yourself and dig deep into the silence is the best way to tap into your inner wisdom to effect change in your life .
The question that begins your journey !
Through any of modalities shared above , it begins with asking yourself one simple question . Take a moment to ground yourself and take several deep cleansing breaths to get present .
Next , ask yourself , “ How am I betraying myself ?”.
Once you ’ ve asked the question , allow yourself time to sit in silence so the answers can rise to the surface . You can choose to journal about what shows up for you or remain in silence and quietly contemplate your findings . What rises to the surface may