secondary gain of self-pity which has now become your comfort zone .
A PATTERN OF TOLERATING BAD BEHAVIOR FROM OTHERS OR YOURSELF . Continually allowing this behavior even when you know deep inside that you deserve better is a common self-sabotaging behavior .
A PATTERN OF CONSUMING AND / OR ADDICTION . You have an inner pull to feed what feels like an endless void within you with excess food , shopping , gambling , smoking , or some other selfdestructive habit .
Do you see yourself in any , some , or all these scenarios ?
It doesn ’ t have to stay that way . You can break the cycle and patterns of self-sabotage .
First , let ’ s explore what selfsabotage really is . When fear , doubt , blame and overwhelm are wreaking havoc on your life , you can be sure that something is amiss , and its name is self-betrayal and it often wears the cloak of self-sabotage . We are taught at an early age to have short and long-term goals and to gauge where we are in life by our achievements .
When life , as we know it , presents constant challenges or obstacles and we feel like we should be farther along than we are , we can be sure that self-sabotage is being reflected outward as a direct result of our self-betrayal .
Why we ‘ choose ’ to betray ourselves .
Is it conscious or are we unknowingly creating these issues for ourselves ? Are we living based on the expectations of ourselves or the expectations of others ?
We are all like absorbent sponges from the time we are born until about 8-yearsold . During this time , we are observing anything and everything in our waking life through each of our senses . We do not have the capacity to analyze things at such a
young age as we are not equipped to fully understand what we are observing . Thus , we are just taking it all in and in many cases , we are mimicking our learned experiences as our subconscious mind develops patterns of behavior based on what we think and feel through our observations .
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