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If you are a friend or a family member, just listen, give a hug and don’t try to shut it down. avoid talking about the sit- uation or our loved one. If you are a friend or a family member, just listen, give a hug and don’t try to shut it down. Ask the person if they want to talk. Most seniors tell me they want to talk about their spouse because it honors them and brings up good memories. Some days it may be too hard, so just ask what they want or need from you. Sometimes having to pick up unfamiliar task the other spouse always did can be overwhelming as well, such as banking, car re- pairs, lawn work and shop- ping. If the deceased spouse was managing this aspect of life, on top of the sadness, you are trying to learn new tasks and assume a new normal for your life that feels anything but normal. Now one person is try- ing to manage everything and regain the balance in life and this creates great stress. Be patient if you are a loved one, and be patient with yourself if you are experiencing this change in lifestyle. Also, do not be afraid to ask for help with things you do not under- stand. If you are a grieving senior, try to start engaging in life again. Some helpful tips are: eat right, get ad- equate sleep and exercise or at least walk if you are able. Try to talk to others and maybe consider a grief support group. Many of the local churches offer these group settings. If you are spiritual, lean into your spirituality and consider a Bible study group with your peers. The fellow- ship with others helps one to not stay withdrawn and isolated. You could also con- sider some volunteer work or community senior events that will get you out of the house and able to have a so- cial outlet. Take your medi- cines if you are on any, and reach out to your doctor if you continue to struggle or your depression worsens. If you feel you need additional support reach out to local counseling. Take your time on any major life decision – you will know when you are to ready to go through or donate items of your loved one but do this in your own timing. But, most of all, remem- ber this journey is your own. Again, follow what your heart needs to and how you feel best about honoring your loved one. Embrace the beauty of what your loved was for you and smile when you recall that love. How blessed we are to know love and relation- ships. When we love big, we also grieve big….but, above all, remember this place of raw sorrow is temporary and joy does come in the morning. Peace and bless- ings… CULLMAN COUNTY SENIOR MAGAZINE Symptoms of grief may include: • Difficulty sleeping • Little or no interest in eating • Concentration problems • Difficulty making decisions • Feeling numb, shocked, or fearful • Guilt or anger about being left behind SUMMER 2019 | 41