1. Still Single? Learn to Enjoy the Journey
This may be the only time in your life that you’ll be single, so do it well. How well you live today will open blessings for your future. There’s no need to be obsessed about finding someone to marry. Think of Ella Enchanted. She was so focused on her task of finding her fairy godmother to undo the curse that was upon her life, that chasing after Prince Char was the last thing on her mind. She was not like her twin stepsisters Hattie and Olive, who were infatuated with him, chasing him when they saw him, and trying every scheme possible to get to be his princess. Needless to say, Prince Char literally had to run away and hide from them! Of course, it was Ella the prince chose to marry. Being desperate for a boyfriend isn’t attractive to most boys.
For a Biblical example, let's look at Ruth. When Ruth’s husband died, she became determined and focused on what God wanted her to do. She was busy looking after her mother-in-law, working hard, and gleaning in the field. She made God her priority and trusted Him to provide, despite her negative circumstances.
"So Ruth, the Moabitess, said to Naomi, 'Please let me go to the field, and glean heads of grain after him in whose sight I may find favour.' " Ruth 2:2
Ruth was not desperately looking around for her next husband to come along. Just like Ella in the movie, this made her stand out to Boaz, the most eligible batchelor whom she later married.
2. Prince Charming is Not Your Answer
If you’re lonely as a single girl, then you’ll be lonely in a marriage. Are you insecure? Then you’ll be insecure in marriage. Allow God to transform you through his word, the renewal of your mind and The Holy Spirit. Ask God to show you areas of your life you may need to improve on before your prince arrives.
Most of all, focus on the love that God has for you
“(so) that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height— to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.” Eph 3: 17-19
The more you know and believe His love, the more you’ll be empowered to love others. You need to be secure in your relationship with Him first of all. The Lord Jesus will always be your husband, so cultivate His presence, spend time with Him, talk to Him, listen to Him, and develop your relationship with Him. You have the precious gift of time that will disappear once you’re married. Spend your time wisely. Sitting at His feet is the most constructive use of your time, for now and for the future.
"A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies."
It is to our credit, therefore, to be virtuous or noble; to put the needs of others before ourselves; to be loving, kind and gracious; to be generous to those in need; and to worship the Lord. These are all things we can put into practice regardless of our marital status.
Ask God to highlight any areas of your life where you need to develop or improve. Do you have any bad habits? Is there any part of your emotional health that needs his healing touch? If you feel insecure now, you’ll be insecure in your marriage. If you fly off the handle when you’re single, you’ll be just the same after the wedding.
3. Do Something With Your Life!
Think of all those things you would love to do in life. What dreams do you have in your heart? Maybe you’re interested in doing charity work at home or abroad? You could spend time traveling, write a book, learn photography, start a business or write a blog...(continued on next page)