slay dragons for her, climb mountains and scale tower walls just for her. Men tend to think of ladies as part of a conquest. Finding an amazing woman is like the ultimate prize of manhood. "That's not true!" you argue. "The boys I know love when I flirt with them! They soak up the attention like a sponge!" Most boys aren't going to shun the attention that you give them. You can chase and entertain them. You can send text messages until their phone bills explode. You can chase them if you want to. Trust me, he will enjoy it. But the bittersweet part of being the pursuer rather than the pursued is that some guys you're chasing might end up using you. Yes, they'll enjoy your attention. They might even date you for awhile. But because you were so easy, they may feel like they've not accomplished much. They might grow restless with the lack of challenge, get bored with you and set out to find a girl who's giving them a lot less attention than you are. I know it sounds strange, but as I said before, guys always love a challenge. If you make yourself an easy catch, and chase down his fishing net and leap into it, this guy might strive for something more outside of your relationship. This is where a whole lot of heartbroken girls are dumped. One day things are going just rosy with their guy, and the next day he's chasing after another girl.
So how can we avoid this heartbreak? Well girl, it's time to play things old school. This newfangled, "get dressed up in your little pink workout suit and chase tirelessly after any guy who strikes your fancy" thing is obviously not working. It's time to return to something that most of us think expired with the Nineteen-Fifties. It's called playing hard to get. Waiting. Acting uninterested. Being content to sit still. Being confident without a guy on your arm. Whatever you wanna call it, it works! Back in the old days, all the young girls in the school yard were told that Georgie Porgy was supposed to make the first move. "Never call a boy! Never ask him out on a date! Never tell him that you like him!" Mothers would drill this stuff into their daughters' brains as they skipped out the front door on their way to school. I know you may not be thinking about marriage yet, but the divorce rate today is crazy. Back in the Nineteen-Fifties, when the girls played hard to get, marriages stayed glued together. Men rarely left their wives. Most boys stuck with their girlfriends for the long haul. Even though it sounds scary to mention marriage, isn't that the ultimate purpose of dating anyway? To discover who you'd like to spend the rest of your life with? If your eyes grow wide and you feel yourself shudder when you imagine yourself being married to Georgie Porgy, maybe you're not old enough to start dating yet. This world tells us that to be popular, successful and loveable we must have a cute boyfriend. Sometimes a girl can feel left out when all her friends have beaus and she's got no one. But what could possibly be more attractive than a confident girl who knows she doesn't need a boy to define who she is? What could be more classy and charming than a girl who is super-focused on loving her friends and her life, passionately chasing her dreams and tackling her goals?
Being single is a blessing. It helps you remember what's important in life, gives you more time to do the things you enjoy, and it tells the boys in your life that if they want your attention, they're gonna have to work for it. ;)
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