There Is A Reason For Everything
When I was 14 I had a friend who did not like the way I looked, the music I listened to, and the things I did. She knew that she had an advantage over me because at the time my parents would not let me do the things that she did; which made me want to rebel against them. She would tell me that I should wear makeup, that my hair would look better if I would use a flat iron to straighten it, and my eyebrows did not look right so I should probably pluck them. She would tell me these things in front of other people which embarrassed me. But I did the things that she said and I found myself at a place where I was growing up too fast. I ruined my eyebrows, I did not know how to use makeup (I bought the wrong shade of foundation; way too dark), and I listened to music that I would not normally listen to (popular music such as One Direction and Taylor Swift).
My parents tried to tell me that she was a bad influence, but I didn’t listen.
The things she told me to do completely changed me. Before this friend, I didn’t care if I was wearing any makeup, or what clothes I had, but I started to take notice of those things.
Recently, I realized the bad influence she had on my life and I decided to end our friendship. It hurt me when I realized that she didn’t like me for who I was and it hurt even more that she wanted to change me. Sometimes I wonder why this situation happened to me, we must always remember that God has a plan for everything. Due to that bad friendship, I am a better person today. If you’re wondering why God allows you to go through pain in your life, always remember that He has a plan and one day you will realize that it all happened for a purpose.
Kill Them With Kindness
One thing that I have learned over the years is that if you let the bullies know that their words or actions affect you, they are going to feel victorious. If you hold your head up, you will be able to defeat the power of their words. Most bullies are dealing with insecurities themselves so they think that if they can push us down, then they will be able to get free from their problems and find happiness. The problem is, they will always be searching because they will never find true happiness in hurting people. God is the only One who brings true joy! If you get mad at the bullies and try hurt them too then they are going to continue hurting you. Ignoring their comments and being kind will make them realize that their actions don’t affect you anymore. Like Selena Gomez’s song says “kill ‘em with kindness”. Responding to their actions with kindness will set you free! The Bible says in Ephesians 4:32, “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
Bullying- using superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force him or her to do what one wants.
Bullying can happen when you say something rude about someone behind their back, when you tell someone to change who they are because you don’t like a certain aspect about them, or even going as far as to physically harm them.
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