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xoxo Sister to Sister
Q. I’m in my mid-thirties and have no
friends. I’ve tried all the usual things
people are told to do when they say this
online. I just never seem to be able to
connect with anyone. Any tips on how to
make a connection with people?
A- I’m going break this in two. First up, how to
actually meet people. Secondly, what might be
stopping you in your mind from making friends
already.
A word from OPTI-WOT (The optimistic
way of thinking) …
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readers as well as provide support and
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comfort and benefit for those who may feel
that they are experiencing life’s difficulties on
their own .
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1)Create the opportunities
You say you’ve seen unhelpful advice online on
this subject before, so what I’m saying here is
more than just a box-ticking exercise. I’m not
going to say “take up a hobby or join a club” –
because that’s what everyone always says. Either
that hasn’t worked for you or you haven’t felt
those suggestions were compelling enough to
even bother trying.
So, let’s look at that practical advice with a
slightly different lens. In order to make a
connection with people, you’ve got to set
yourself up with the right tools to meet them,
right? Find a scene that makes sense for you,
whatever it is.
Pick something that involves genuine and
immediate interaction with other people, like
doing courses or taking up classes. Many people
will be there just to improve their confidence
and it’ll involve a lot of fun bonding. Being out
of your comfort zone is pretty much a
requirement for these things, so you won’t be
alone.
Think carefully about where like-minded people
might be – that could be anywhere from
volunteering in your local community or
volunteering with an organisation. Try things
out. Don’t expect the first thing you do to be an
instant hit. Manage your own