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ADVICE___________________________________________________________________________________ xoxo Sister to Sister Q. I’m in my mid-thirties and have no friends. I’ve tried all the usual things people are told to do when they say this online. I just never seem to be able to connect with anyone. Any tips on how to make a connection with people? A- I’m going break this in two. First up, how to actually meet people. Secondly, what might be stopping you in your mind from making friends already. A word from OPTI-WOT (The optimistic way of thinking) … Dear Beautiful! I am very grateful to be given this opportunity to share my thoughts & expertise with the covered family. My hope is that this column will be enjoyed by the readers as well as provide support and guidance to those who may seek it. I am optimistic that this column will be a source of comfort and benefit for those who may feel that they are experiencing life’s difficulties on their own . My dear sisters, you are not alone, WE’VE GOT YOU COVERED! A huge thank you to all the submissions received, this column is because of you…. XOXO SISTER TO SISTER Disclaimer: please note the opinions shared in this column is a depiction of my own views and expertise, and bear no resemblance to any religious specific content. 34 1)Create the opportunities You say you’ve seen unhelpful advice online on this subject before, so what I’m saying here is more than just a box-ticking exercise. I’m not going to say “take up a hobby or join a club” – because that’s what everyone always says. Either that hasn’t worked for you or you haven’t felt those suggestions were compelling enough to even bother trying. So, let’s look at that practical advice with a slightly different lens. In order to make a connection with people, you’ve got to set yourself up with the right tools to meet them, right? Find a scene that makes sense for you, whatever it is. Pick something that involves genuine and immediate interaction with other people, like doing courses or taking up classes. Many people will be there just to improve their confidence and it’ll involve a lot of fun bonding. Being out of your comfort zone is pretty much a requirement for these things, so you won’t be alone. Think carefully about where like-minded people might be – that could be anywhere from volunteering in your local community or volunteering with an organisation. Try things out. Don’t expect the first thing you do to be an instant hit. Manage your own