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The First step would be to determine
what success means to you personally.
There will always be one thing that’s
given more priority than the other, and
the sooner you decide which one, you
can accept it, consent to it and make it
work by implementing coping methods
for the one you consider less important
to you – but still want to greatly succeed
at it. It’s a fact that before you can take
care of anyone else you have to take
care of yourself first, meaning you need
to feel balanced within yourself. Once
you know how to do this with proper
planning in all areas of your life, you can
take total control of the constant
nagging feelings of guilt and worry.
Instead you will feel happier, more
stable and strong, knowing you’re totally
competent in harmonising your work
and family life. This may seem daunting
for some, but a lot of people have
already done it, so there shouldn’t be any
reason you can’t do the same. I, too,
struggled to integrate my career and
personal life at first, but eventually
found the middle ground.
This is how I did it:
Simply make the decision and
commitment. Set clear boundaries and
find the peace to make it work. If you
don’t make the conscious decision to
achieve that peace and fully commit to
it, it’s unlikely you’ll succeed. Realise that
in order to achieve success you would
have to give up some of your original
goals and substitute it with new ones -
with different but equal challenges and
results.
There are various ways to skin the cat so to
speak. Again, redefine your passion and
purpose and stick to it. Become more
assertive in your communication style as
well. If you generally are the submissive
type, first acknowledge that and then
practice how to become more assertive
with things that don’t resonate with you,
or are not serving you in achieving your
goals. Make sure your career remains
challenging, but not overwhelming, by
learning to say “no” to energy-drainers.
Most of us don’t like to refuse favours,
new responsibilities, or even casual
requests, for fear of looking
undependable, or upsetting someone, or
missing out on something. Do not
assume responsibility for people’s feelings
or emotions. However, make a point of
seriously considering any request that
comes your way, and double-check your
schedule before taking anything else on
that’s not in line with your objectives. Our
environments can contribute a lot to how
effective we work and live, since
everything is energy and either adds to
our personal energy pool, or drains from
it. So, unclutter all areas, keep it organised
as it will free up space in your mind to
deal with the more important things in
your life. Always communicate your
situation to your family..
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