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only in cosmo to return to normalcy. It was the worst thing that could have happen to me, the worst thing I did to myself. I was dating Alexx O’Nell at the time, and after this episode, he took me to the doctor and helped me understand what I was going through. The doctor told me that I had bipolar disorder. It’s a brain disorder that causes unusual Shama Sikander shifts in mood, energy levels, and the ability to carry out daily tasks. But therapy really helped me. Talking about your inner turmoil helps you recognise the issues and tackle them. Once I became aware of my illnesses, I had a voice inside me that kept telling me that I’m stronger than I think... that I will survive. I was in therapy for four years and slowly, things started to look up. Sharing my story and speaking about it made me understand what was bothering me deep down. People are apprehensive about seeking therapy, but it’s just a meditative session where you connect with yourself. And in those sessions, I found out that I had some unresolved childhood issues—and the moment I accepted them and let go of all the pain, I started feeling better. And sharing it with the world made me feel good, relieved. Any kind of mental illness is a vicious circle of how unaware people end up hurting each other. The more we speak about it, the more awareness we will create about it. Though I still have moments when I feel vulnerable, now I know I’ll be okay. I don’t feel like I’m in a dark place anymore—therapy really helps you get “SHARING MY STORY WITH THE WORLD MADE ME FEARLESS.” stronger mentally. Now I deal with all my problems with a calm mind, and approach every day life with patience. I also feel that sharing my story with the world has made me more fearless and courageous. I have understood myself, and I don’t try to be someone else anymore. I’m more comfortable in my skin, and love both my positives and negatives. I’d just like to leave everyone with one piece of advice: no matter what you’re going through, never be ashamed of it. If you feel like you’re depressed or not feeling too great, share it with someone you trust...seek professional help if need be, it’s nothing to be ashamed of. Only you can be your own saviour, no-one else.” SARAH JANE DIAS, Model and Actor On battling an eating disorder. “I was going through multiple things in my 20s. Sarah Jane Dias I used to have trouble sleeping, and would wake up in the middle of the night feeling terribly anxious. I would then sleep through the day, and not eat properly. Our industry is pretty brutal—when I first came here from Muscat, I still had a bit of baby fat on me, and people at shoots would literally hold on to what they would call ‘fat on my arm’ and shame me. They would say things like ‘You really need to work out’, and would often give me unsolicited advise. Over time, I fell into the trap and tried a bunch of things to lose weight, and lose it fast! And it took me “I COPED WITH MY DISORDER BY EDUCATING MYSELF ABOUT IT.” You are Not Alone... Brave celebrities who have opened up about their mental health struggles. “I had really bad postpartum depression after I had my son, and it frightened me. I didn’t talk to anyone about it. I was very reluctant...” —ADELE “I have anxiety. And I’m treating my anxiety. I’m on medication for my anxiety. Why am I saying this? Because it’s a completely normal thing.” —ANUSHKA SHARMA 98 COSMOPOLITAN AUGUST 2018 FOR MORE GREAT STORIES, VISIT COSMO.IN “It was beginning to get fuzzy. I couldn’t even tell which day or which city I was at. And my mother kept saying that I had to take care of my mental health.” —BEYONCÉ