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Please Stop Doing This At Work

‘ I know you ’ re busy , but if it ’ s not too much trouble , do you think you might possibly be able to meet with me this afternoon ?’
Here ’ s a lowdown of habits that can hold you back from being successful . By Molly Fitzpatrick

Here ’ s a memo you need to get : a few seemingly innocuous

and totally common workplace behaviours ( for example , being indirect , hitting the ‘!’ key one too many times ) can straight-up sabotage your stellar employee status and your potential to get ahead . “ Women often act a certain way because they don ’ t want to be called aggressive or a b * tch ,” says leadership and communication coach Peggy Klaus , author of Brag ! The Art Of Tooting Your Own Horn Without Blowing It . Sadly , having a less assertive or too enthusiastic MO can cause colleagues to view you as unreliable or unprofessional . Breaking these three small habits can help put you on track for long-term success .
TALKING IN TIMID-SPEAK
Got a question for your boss ? Just clearly state what you need . “ If you ’ re not direct , you likely won ’ t get what you want ,” says Peggy .
Women sometimes hedge requests because they ’ ve been conditioned to be accommodating to others . But being too deferential can come across as meek or like * ss-kissing , causing your co-workers to doubt your confidence or qualifications . They ’ ll wonder , in turn , if they should trust you with big projects .
Keep your asks simple and straightforward : ‘ Can you meet this afternoon ? We need to discuss XYZ .’ ( While you ’ re at it : remove ‘ I ’ m sorry ’ from your vocab unless you really mean it .)
Illustrations : LAURA BREILING
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