Cosmopolitan August 2018 - Page 102

you, you, you What to Do With Your Emotional Baggage 102 COSMOPOLITAN AUGUST 2018 FOR MORE GREAT STORIES, VISIT COSMO.IN FOR MORE GREAT STORIES, VISIT COSMO.IN 1 You know stress (who doesn’t!)? Well, it turns out that big EXPAND YOUR VOCAB optimistic? Keep it up until “If you don’t know what you can ID your emotions as emotions can disguise a host of emotion you’re dealing with, soon as they start to surface. more nuanced feels, stuff like you can’t constructively express it,” says Tony Ferretti, a US- stress is just the tip of an licensed psychologist. 2 emotional iceberg. There’s often based To that end, write down a lot more going on down below. five positive feelings (like LOOK CLOSER “Now that you have more excitement, joy, passion, For example, perhaps it wasn’t satisfaction, and hope) and five words to work with, the next that deadline frazzling you. It was negative ones (anxiety, fear, time you feel a really intense emotion, try to unpack it,” guilt, anger, and frustration) the fact that your boss always says Susan. What’s beneath on palm cards. Jot the actual subtly undermines you. this feel? Can you name two definitions on the back, and other emotions you’re also Addressing these buried feelings feel zero shame if you have Say you’re mad to consult a dictionary. Each can lead to “better psychological day, choose one card and try to sensing? that boo waits two hours to health, career success, and text you back. A little more notice when you or someone investigating might reveal else is experiencing that meaning in life”, says US-based that you’re anxious about the sensation. Chances are, it will psychologist Susan David. Ready crop up. ‘‘We all experience 10 strength of your bond after being burned by your last to 15 emotions per day,” says to dig deep? Welcome to BF. Don’t talk yourself out Tony. Be aware of how various Cosmo’s crash course on of this—instead, sit with it feelings affect your own body. tapping into your feels. for a second. “Consciously Are you sweating? Do you feel