Th e D rea m Fri e n dsh i p
Do you have a dream for your future? I do, I’ve
always been a dreamer; I’ve held this vision of
my dream life for so long now, in the beginning it
was bigger than me, but now it has become part
of me and I know any day now it will become
my reality. The path to creating that dream life
hasn’t always been smooth and there have been
times when I’ve felt like giving up but there is one
thing that kept me going and that was friendship.
Although I have many friends I only have a
handful of very close, true, loyal friends that I
know I can rely on fully and they are all that I
need. These are the women that I turn to when
I need support, encouragement and a shoulder
to cry on, these are the women that delight in
my highs and hold me up in my lows. These
women are my rocks. When the voice inside
my head tells me ‘you’re not good enough’ it’s
these women that tell me I am. When I start to
doubt my dream and wonder if I can ever make
it, it’s these women that tell me ‘just keep going;
everything happens for a reason’. When things
are tough and I need an ear to really listen it’s
these women that do so without judgement.
For me a true friendship is built on honesty, love,
trust and belief in each other. When you have a
friend with this kind of connection life is so much
easier, especially the journey of motherhood.
For most of us, motherhood has been a lifelong
dream, but it’s not always that serene, blissful
vision that we held. Motherhood tests us in
many ways and sometimes it can feel like a never
ending battle and it’s these times, these times
when we are exhausted from the night waking’s,
the early starts, the late nights, the hectic days,
it’s these times we need our friendships the
most because it’s in those connections that we
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find hope, comfort and support. It’s in those
connections that we realise that we are not
alone, our challenges maybe different but we
are there for each other. A true friend doesn’t
judge or compare, she’s listens and offers her
best pearls of wisdom, she whispers ‘you’re
good enough’ and sometimes that’s all we need
to hear.
Throughout my mothering journey and the path
to creating my dream life I have had my ups
and downs; I have battled post-natal depression,
self-loathing and self-doubt, the inner critic in
my head became so loud that I couldn’t hear
anything else. I’m no longer in that place, I
turned the self-loathing into self-love, doubt
into belief and learnt to ignore that inner critic
and listen to my heart and soul and all along
that path of transformation my friends were
there, not always physically as some of them live
many miles away, but they were there like angels
holding me gently on their wings and whispering
‘I am hear for you’ and it was their honesty, their
love, their trust and belief in me tha