Compassionate Integrity Training Final CIT training manual 11-30 - Page 93

Compa ssionate Integrit y Tr a ining A S e cu l a r Ethic s Appr oa c h to C ulti vat ing Pe rs on al, S o ci al and E n vir on me n tal F lo u r i shing Gratitude for Family and Friends An example of a practice that helps us recognize the It is easiest to cultivate gratitude with regard to those ways we truly benefit from others is the contemplative we love. Yet if we reflect closely, we may find that even practice of Naikan, which originated in Japan and has in the case of such people, we tend to take things for now spread to Europe and North America. 69 In this granted and to minimize the full scope of the role they practice, we bring to mind a person in our life, usually play and have played in our lives. Opening ourselves beginning with our primary caregiver, such as our to gratitude means opening the door to being utterly mother. We then ask three questions: “What have I amazed at the countless ways others have supported us received from this person?”, “What have I given in and continue to support us. It means gradually realizing return?”, and “What trouble have I caused them?” that we could never survive, much less thrive, without the Although Naikan is traditionally practiced all day for constant support and care of others. This recognition can seven days straight, which leads to powerful memory lead to a profound sense of humility, a deep appreciation recall, it can be done effectively in shorter sessions over for others and a wish to repay their kindness, which a longer period of time, such as 20-30 minutes a day for paves the way for genuine compassion. several weeks or months. In mar ɥչ͕ݡ́ɔͭݡЁ9͕́䁅ѡ͔ՍɕՕѥ)ɍхѡ䁍ɥєѼѡȁɕѥ͡ЁѼ͕́܁ՍݔхȁɅѕ)ͥͅɍи ɱ䰁Ё́ЁͥȁՍЁݔٔɕٕɽѡٕ́ȁѡ)ѹȁѼɥєͥɍЁѼѡɕѥ͡Q͔́ȁQɅѥ9ݔ͡ձ)́䁽݅ѡЁݔٕȵє͕ٕ́хեЁݡɔݔݥЁɅѕȁմ)ѡ́ȁɅѕ]ݔѡȁ͠ѕ́ȁͼѡ՝ݔՍ)́ݔɕ锁ѡɥ٥Յ́ȁ͕ͥ͡ձݔݥ͠ѼQݔ͡ձ)ݡ͡ЁͥLЁ)ݡݔɽ䁑Ёٕ܁ͽ)=ȁɅѥՑ́ͼѕݡЁ卡́)qѥ٥䁉̻t́ѡ՝̰ѥ٥)́́ѥЁѼ́ЁݡЁ́ѥٔ)ͽȁͥՅѥɽٽѥѥٔ)ѡ́́հȁȁхЁѽ̰)Ё݅́ՍɔѱѼЁѕ䁹ѥ)ȁݡ͕ͥͽȁͥՅѥɅѡȁѡ)͕ݡЁ݅́ѡ՝ѡ͕ٕ́́)͕հչѥЁͼ́́ѼѽЁɕ䁉)ᅝɅѥݡЁ́ɽݥѠͽȁͥՅѥ)͍ɥѡͥѥٔQ́ѽѥ́)ՍٔѼɝٕ́ɅѥՑ) Ёȁȁ ́ͥ$ѕȁЁ䁄LԁȁЁ́0UٔͤЁ4ȁЁфȁ(܀