Compassionate Integrity Training Final CIT training manual 11-30 - Page 90

Compa ssionate Integrit y Tr a ining A S e cu l a r Ethic s A ppr oac h to C ulti vat ing Pe rs on al, S o ci al and E n vir on me n tal F lo u r i shing Series II: Relating to Others Skill 6: Forgiveness and Gratitude Forgiveness is often seen as an interpersonal process involving both oneself and a transgressor or perpetrator. But the intrapersonal aspect of forgiveness, which is a Learning Outcomes Content ● Participants will learn the benefits of forgiveness for one’s health, peace of mind and relationships. releasing of anger and resentment and a replacement of those with positive feelings toward the transgressor, is even ● Participants will learn to distinguish forgiveness more important and is always a choice open to us. This from condoning, excusing, forgetting or kind of forgiveness is a gift we give to ourselves, reconciling. because it opens the door for inner freedom and happiness. ● Participants will learn specific strategies for Without it, we can remain chained to past events and other people, causing continued suffering to ourselves and others. Gratitude is a powerful way to cultivate forgiveness and cultivating forgiveness. ● Participants will learn the benefits of gratitude. is itself essential for happiness. Unfortunately, due to our ● Participants will explore interdependence. biologically-wired negativity bias, our minds often play ● Participants will learn that it is possible to be tricks on us, leading us to believe that others do more to grateful even for the harm that someone abstains harm us than to benefit us, when in most cases the opposite from doing to them. is true. Gratitude for others is an essential step in both cultivating greater happiness and compassion. By appreciating what others do to benefit us and the harm Practice they refrain from doing to us, we can both feel better and ● Participants will get increasingly better at develop greater affection and concern for others. Furthermore, noticing the ways others benefit them and by learning to appreciate what we have, rather than what recalling past benefit. we lack, we can develop a sense of contentment, which leads to greater well-being and more generosity. ● Participants will cultivate the ability to recognize how they often focus on transgressions rather than the benefits others do for them. ● Participants will develop an increasingly greater appreciation for forgiveness and ability to forgive. ● Participants will gain an increasing ability to see the positive in people, objects and experiences that were previously taken for granted. Ce n t e r for Compa s sion , I nteg r i t y and S e cu l ar E t hics | L ife Uni ve rsi t y | M ar ie t ta, G e or g i a - 84 -