Compassionate Integrity Training Final CIT training manual 11-30 - Page 54

Compa ssionate Integrit y Tr a ining A S e cu l a r Ethic s A ppr oac h to C ulti vat ing Pe rs on al, S o ci al and E n vir on me n tal F lo u r i shing Series I: Self-Cultivation Skill 4: Self-Compassion The process of self-inquiry and the ability to examine our Learning Outcomes mental experiences directly allow for the practice of genuine self-compassion. Self-inquiry may reveal to us that all of our thoughts are driven by our fundamental desire for happiness Content and the alleviation of suffering, but that harmful mental states ● Participants will explore whether the actually lead us away from these goals. It has the potential to underlying motivation beneath all of our show us that if we get caught up in material and short-sighted thoughts and actions is a desire for happiness concerns, believing that achieving these goals will actually lead and well-being. to enduring happiness, it will be harder to find true satisfaction. ● Participants will explore how suffering and Both common sense and research show us that material gain, physical pleasure, praise and status bring only temporary happiness do not depend solely on external happiness and not lasting contentment. Furthermore, unrealistic situations, but on our own emotions, expectations of ourselves can lead to excessive pressure and thoughts, attitudes and habits of mind, self-criticism when we meet with the reality that we cannot be which we can transform. exceptional at everything. Fortunately, self-compassion also ● Participants will learn how seeking external leads us to the realization that we are capable of change, since sources of happiness (material gain, sensory- we can gain insight, develop skills and familiarize ourselves dependent pleasure, praise and status), rather with more productive attitudes and emotional responses. The than internal ones, often fails to bring lasting goal of self-compassion,therefore, is to build confidence and satisfaction. resolve in one’s ability to achieve lasting well-being, resilience ● Participants will explore how unrealistic and inner freedom. expectations can lead to suffering and excessive self-criticism. Practice ● Participants will explore through practice how harmful mental states can be changed, gaining confidence in the possibility of self- transformation. ● Participants will generate increasing resolve and determination to gradually transform their afflictive mental states. Ce n t e r for Compa s sion , I nteg r i t y and S e cu l ar E t hics | L ife Uni ve rsi t y | M ar i e t ta, G e or g i a - 48 -