Compassionate Integrity Training Final CIT training manual 11-30 - Page 24

Compa ssionate Integrit y Tr a ining A S e cu l a r Ethic s A ppr oac h to C ulti vat ing Pe rs on al, S o ci al and E n vir on me n tal F lo u r i shing recognize that we flourish best when we are in order to keep us alive, have come to link social rejection constructive relations with others. very closely with physical danger. 19 As human beings in today’s world, we live in complex, Our need for social acceptance is so deeply rooted in our interconnected societies. Our everyday activities and psychology and physiology that when we lack it, we face personal goals require contributions from countless others. dire consequences for our mental and physical health. Therefore, other-interest and self-interest go hand-in- When we lack social support, care and protection from hand. Our relationships with each other are as vital others, we experience loneliness, depression and a variety as our relationship to the environment. If we were to of negative health outcomes, including even changes in destroy the environment out of short-term selfishness, gene expression. 20 Social embarrassment is so painful and this would hardly be an effective act of self-interest. scary to us, that sometimes we even attempt or commit Similarly, to seek personal gain in ways that alienate suicide out of fear of social rejection. This can be seen or deprive everyone around oneself is not effective self- from statistics: groups of people who are at risk for social interest either. Science is showing that far from harming isolation and rejection consistently show much higher self-interest, the cultivation of prosocial emotions like attempted suicide rate