Compassionate Integrity Training Final CIT training manual 11-30 - Page 13

Compa ssionate Integrit y Tr a ining A S e cu l a r Ethic s Appr oa c h to C ulti vat ing Pe rs on al, S o ci al and E n vir on me n tal F lo u r i shing Guidelines for Learning and Practicing CIT Engaging in the work of exploring one’s own values, is critical to the process. Remember to remain open attitudes and emotions can often be challenging. Here and allow differences to be heard and valued. are a few guiding principles to make the journey easier Speak from “I” We often speak in a way that states and more productive. our opinions or perspectives as facts. There is a difference between saying “Eggs are disgusting” and “I think eggs are disgusting.” The latter states one’s 1. Help Create a Safe Space – opinion but respects and allows room for other One that is Open and Trusting views. Speaking from “I” actually gives more value If you are learning and practicing CIT with others in to your statements. It helps cultivate a sense of a group setting, strive to create a safe space where confidence and empowerment. people can feel relaxed and willing to explore together. Don’t Give Advice Even though it might seem These principles may help you to achieve this: tempting, refrain from giving advice during CIT Confidentiality Throughout the training, others sessions. You can suggest ways that you or someone might feel inclined to share insights, stories or memories else might approach the situation, but allow others to with you or the entire group. It is important to remember come up with their own ideas and solutions for their that anything that is said or discussed in the sessions issues. Oftentimes, people simply want someone to should remain confidential, unless someone specifies listen. Rather than giving advice, try to actively listen otherwise. Retaining this confidentiality will foster a by not interrupting or redirecting the conversation. safe and trusting space for all participants to delve deeply into the content and practice. Trust and Openness Allow everyone to speak his or 2. Progress, Not Perfection her mind and to disagree. The content in CIT is not In CIT we are aiming for gradual progress, not instant black and white. People will challenge each other. This results or perfection. Changing the course of a sailboat diversity is an important part of the self discovery that by only a few degrees would not seem to make much Ce n t e r for Compa s sion, I n teg r i t y a nd S e cu l ar E t hics | L ife Uni ve rsi t y | M ar ie t ta, G e or g i a - 7 -