Compassionate Integrity Training Final CIT training manual 11-30 - Page 101

Compa ssionate Integrit y Tr a ining A S e cu l a r Ethic s Appr oa c h to C ulti vat ing Pe rs on al, S o ci al and E n vir on me n tal F lo u r i shing threats to the environment or the fact that some self-compassion we understand that change is possible, 20,000 children die every day due to malnutrition. If we develop a realistic and hopeful outlook, and we also we try to think about these issues, they may appear so understand how to navigate our own emotions so that overwhelming that we feel hopeless, powerless, afraid they do not overwhelm us. Dealing with the suffering and begin to shut down. Or we may have a friend who of others may then still cause us a degree of distress, but we try to help again and again, but who keeps falling we learn to better manage that distress so that it does into the same problem time and again. Although we not overwhelm us. In this way we manage to direct our care for our friend, we may give up because that caring empathy toward empathic concern and compassion, is causing us so much distress. These are all signs of rather than empathic distress. If we do not learn to do empathic distress. this, we may find that empathic distress only leads to burnout. 79 With empathic concern, however, we are To combat empathic distress, we have to have strong resilience and an ability to deal with suffering ourselves, as well as a sense of hope. These all come from the practice of self-compassion, described earlier. Through focused on the other more than ourselves. 80 This is the kind of empathy we are trying to cultivate in this module and leads directly to compassion. Ce n t e r for Compa s sion, I n teg r i t y a nd S e cu l ar E t hics | L ife Uni ve rsi t y | M ar ie t ta, G e or g i a - 95 -