COMMUNICATION: How To Flirt, Start Conversations And Keep Them Going? In Depth Guide to Approaching, Flirting and Dating | Page 46

Another positive sign is what psychologists call
'postural congruence' or 'postural echo': when your
partner unconsciously adopts a posture similar to yours.
Mirror-image postural echoes – where one person's left
side 'matches' the other person's right side – are the
strongest indication of harmony and rapport between
the pair. If the position of your partner's body and limbs
appear to 'echo' or 'mimic' your own, particularly if
his/her posture is a mirror image of yours, the chances
are that he/she feels an affinity with you.
When flirting, you can also use postural echo to create
a feeling of togetherness and harmony. Experiments
have shown that although people are not consciously
aware of someone deliberately 'echoing' their postures,
they will evaluate a person who does this more
favourably. If you 'echo' your partner's postures, he/she
will not only feel more at ease in your company, but
will perceive you as more like-minded.
This technique obviously has its limits. We would not suggest, for example, that a woman in a mini \