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7. Stimulate Visualization
When you tell somebody not to
think of an old gnome, not to
imagine his red pointed cap, not to
think of his long white beard, nor of
his high boots and typical duds, …
What happens ? He inevitably
thinks of a gnome anyway. To
understand what you are saying,
the listener has no choice but to
create in his mind some
representation of an old gnome.

A handy way to make your
listener think about or
imagine something, is to tell
them
* not to think about it
* that there’s no such thing as …
* It is impossible to imagine …

Always remember: Whatever
you describe, your listener
will visualize.
The more sensory details you
include (colors, sounds, smells,
feelings, tastes, …), the stronger
his response will be.
Use vivid descriptions to allow your
listener to feel as if he is directly
experiencing what you describe,
with all the emotions that follow
from that experience : When you
talk about a beach, don’t just refer
to it as “a beach”, but tell how you
walked up a hill and suddenly
spotted this pure strip of land,
hidden between two dunes, where
the light blue water glittered
between the sun, with the softly
murmuring wide ocean caressing
the white sandy shore below you in
an eternally repeated leisurely
rising and falling flow of its white
foamy waves.