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6. Tell Stories with embedded commands We were …., and suddenly my friend says : “We are going to ……” I read an article / book / watched a movie / saw on TV … So, this guy said to her: “I want you to …” Meanwhile, they arrived at the cabin. Now, imagine, … It was like … (+ because + feeling) … now, with me … you know … Notice : the first part of the phrase is in the past tense, the embedded command is in the present tense! Telling stories is like painting (mental) pictures with words. Stories are so great to stimulate someone’s imagination. Because you are talking about fictive experiences or about other people’s experiences, he will be less critical and feel more free in his interpretation of your words. Almost instinctively, the listener will connect to the situation and feel the emotions that the characters in the story feel, and apply them to the present moment. You will make your listener think about anything you want, just by telling him stories about the subject of your choice. The more vivid, descriptive, detailed and emotional your stories, the more he will think about how these things would feel to him, and the more emotional he will react to your stories. After all, you are not telling him what to do or how to feel, but just telling about what somebody else did and felt. It’s important therefore to mention the desired result or feeling over and over again. Use chains of always stronger, connected feelings A leads to B, B to C … Link descriptions of actions and situations to feelings Description of action or situation + and this made him feel like … / gives you the feeling of … Insert embedded commands By inserting embedded commands, you may talk about anything but simultaneously you will be programming the listener, “ordering” him to like you, desire your product, accept your argumentation, … An imbedded command is reinforced considerably when you use the listener’s name to mark the begin of your command. Use ambiguous words and expressions light = not heavy, bright, told a lie, below me = blow me close off = clothes off new direction = nude erection come H