Coaching World Issue 18: May 2016 - Page 7

Shutterstock.com/Luka Budinsky pairs were in long-term relationships, or were newly formed acquaintances, such as classmates. University of Kansas professor of psychology Chris Crandall explained that this innate drive is practical. “You try to create a social world where you’re comfortable, where you succeed, where you have people you can trust and with whom you can cooperate to meet your goals. To create this similarity is very useful, and people are attracted to it most of the time.” Opposites Don’t Attract The study was published in the February 2016 issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. Think opposites attract? Think again. New research indicates that we are hardwired to choose people who are like-minded when selecting friends and partners. —Justin Hannah ICF partners with various groups through the ICF Media Partner and ICF Business Solutions Partner programs to offer discounts or special pricing to ICF Members on goods and services. Learn more at icf.to/partners. Annuity Managers Agency, LLC Assessments 24x7 AudioAcrobat choice Coaching at Work Coaching Websites Researchers at Wellesley College and the University of Kansas were interested in relationships between friends, acquaintances and romantic couples. They were particularly interested in the earliest moments of those relationships. Hogan Assessments Nationwide Refer.com Soffront “Picture two strangers striking up a conversation on a plane, or a couple on a blind date,” said Wellesley College assistant professor of psychology Angela Bahns, one of the study’s authors. “From the very first moments of awkward banter, how similar the two people are is immediately and powerfully playing a role in future interactions. Will they connect? Or walk away? Those early recognitions of similarity are really consequential in that decision.” Staples TranscribeMe The Coaching Show The Coaching Tools Company.com VideoBio Westminster Indemnity Zoom “Each contact with a human being is so rare, so precious, one should preserve it.” Coaching World To obtain data, pairs of people interacting in public were approached and asked questions about their core values, attitudes, personality traits and behaviors. According to Bahns, the pairs were found to be “more similar than chance on almost everything we measure, and [were] especially similar on the things that mattered most to them personally.” These similarities existed whether the ICF BUSINESS PARTNERS — ANAÏS NIN 7