3. Recycl ing - You may feel thrust, without
warning , back into the pit of grief and despair
over your breakup. Many times, recycling is
triggered by dating because it signals that you're
moving on and some part of you doesn't want to
do that. It's not weakness or anything that you're
doing wrong; it's a part of the grief process and
you don't have to spend alot of time worrying
about it. Don't let recycling throw you so off
course it makes you afraid to get out there again.
4. Rebounding - Sometimes people know they're
on the rebound. It's best not to string someone
along, so let them know you've recently emerged
from a major relationship and try to give them
some idea of where you are. Be as honest as you
can. It's possible but not probable that a rebound
relationship can work. Even if it does, you have
some emotional issues that are connected to
unresolved issues from your breakup. It's best to
recognize a rebound for what it is and use it as a
pit stop and not a final destination.
5. Ret reat ing - Someone may have convinced
you that it's time but you feel unsure. Even if you
feel ready, you may fall apart when you get there,
discover that your skin is still very thin and you're
susceptible to being hurt over anything and
everything. It's okay to retreat for a while to
discover more about how to navigate the world
as a single person. Many times getting back out
there requires baby steps, more self-discovery,
and learning to be social again without
pressuring yourself to date.
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Susan J. Elliott, JD, MED, is the
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Morgan Susan Taylor, MA
Founder, Feminine Wisdom Academy
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