Ciao Bella! USA Summer 2015 | Page 46

relationships Susan J. Elliot t 's New Book Shar es Secr et s t o Successf ul Dat ing and Finding Real Love Af t er t he Big Br eak up Overcoming a breakup can be a real challenge. Often to be successful in the next relationship, we must understand the parts of us that broke up too. Learning to recognize, evaluate and change the negative patterns that repeatedly show up in our relationships is hard, but with some reasearch, introspection, and practice it's possible to take a step forward and get back out there. As with anything, re-entering the dating scene is a process. In Getting Back Out There, (Da Capo Press) a sequel of sorts to her book Getting Past Your Break Up, Susan J. Elliott outlines the pains and the gains inherent in facing the dating scene again. With insight into the "Five Rs" Readiness, Rejection, Recycling, Rebounding and Retreating - Elliott illuminates the bumps we can expect on the road to a new relationship and shows us how to cope with them. Through professional and personal accounts, Elliott teaches her readers to set appropriate standards in the dating world. With exercises that include writing daily affirmations and creating a "life inventory" that examines past family and personal relationships, Elliott helps quell our apprehensions and encourages