AFTER THE
Wedding
PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE
BY DR. LAURIE BETITO
SO MUCH TIME AND ENERGY GOES INTO PREPARING FOR YOUR SPECIAL DAY.
BUT THIS IS ONLY THE BEGINNING OF THE PLANNING AND PREPARATION
THAT A MARRIAGE INVOLVES.
Before walking down the aisle, you have to ask each other all
the tough questions… hash out all the tough issues… not just
what your colour scheme will be, or whom you will invite to
the wedding. In a relationship, if you work hard at foreseeing
potential problems between the two of you, the road ahead will
be much smoother.
It’s unfortunate that most young couples don’t invest enough
time into preparing for their life together. In fact, only 10% of
engaged couples invest the time needed to learn the skills
they’ll need for marriage and that’s why I am a big advocate for
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preparation courses. So what are the issues you should discuss
before the wedding? I’m talking about things like finances,
careers, sexuality, kids and parenting styles, spirituality/religion,
in-laws, etc.
When it comes down to it many happy couples can seem wellmatched on the surface, but that’s only the beginning of the
story. Those same couples may later discover that they have
some fundamental differences on really important issues.
Sidestepping those issues in the beginning won’t make them go
away. They will resurface. I promise
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