Be able to discuss things openly with your ex. Be honest and upfront, but not blunt with your conversation. Work on your differences and don’t let them stop you from moving forward. Work on your problems together as a couple. Both you and your ex have to trust each other. Trust is very important in a relationship. It’s even more important when you are trying to get back with your ex. Trust makes for a good relationship. If you don’t have it, you don’t have a relationship. Of course, after a break up with your ex, that trust has to be earned again. Keep the baggage out of the relationship and away from your ex. It will not do any good for you or them. It just hinders the relationship between you and your ex even more. When you are learning to bond with your ex again, take it day by day. Don’t be in a rush to make it right. You want to lead up to it and make it worth your while. This time around, you want your relationship with your ex to last. Get yourself in order first before you take on a rekindled relationship with your ex. Both of you have to be past the “broken” stage in order to give it another chance. Love yourself first. Be honest with yourself. You are the only one that can do what you need done for yourself. When you’ve mastered that, then you can start loving your ex all over again. Make getting back with your ex a positive experience. The last thing you need is to be hindered and burdened down with unnecessary weight. Create goals for your relationship. You and your ex should spend time discussing what is important for your relationship. Each one is different and has different needs. Make a list and discuss it with your ex. Both of you may have different ideas from what you’ve done in the past. You and your ex need to know where the relationship is going. If not, you are just going through a maze. Be happy for you and your ex. Don’t squander it. Being happy is crucial to the success of getting back together with your ex. Show your ex how much you care about them. Have a sense of humor. It’s good if your ex also had a sense of humor. You and your ex should live your life to the fullest. Don’t be afraid to take the relationship in a new direction. You and your ex can explore options that you have not done before. You and your ex need to spend quality time together. Plan to do things that are not extravagant and over your financial means. The two of you can have a picnic in the park or go to the movies. Be committed to starting fresh with your ex. Do what you say you’re going to do . Of course, things do come up,; but for the most part, be a person of your word. If you can’t make it, then make sure that is communicated to your ex. They will understand and not get upset.